October 12, 2015 by Renee Griffin
The name of my adoption reunion story, Eyes of a Stranger, emerged from a conversation with my birth father.
We spent hundreds of hours talking on the phone struggling to get to know each other.
Tied together by blood and genetics, yet total strangers.
How do you connect to someone who in some ways already knows you, but yet doesn’t know who you are at all?
During one of our awkward, exhilarating talks, I said I’d spent my whole life looking in the eyes of strangers trying to find myself.
It was one of those lines you hear yourself say, and it’s as if the ticking clock slows.
Innocent words caused a lull in our banter as we paused to soak in the deeper meaning.
The sound of him sofltly crying on the other end of the phone hit me hard.
My eyes filled with tears too, not because of my hurt but his.
I did my best to assure him I was okay, and had a great life, but the stranger I’m desperate to know, the one whose eyes I recognize, is searching for his own answers.
Weeks later, he takes this line and writes a song, Eyes of a Stranger.
When my adoption reunion search began, I was focused on my own selfish need for answers.
My heart had empty places I was convinced would be filled once I knew the truth.
Little did I know God would use every chapter of this story to search the depths of my soul and gently lead me to discover real Truth.
My Jesus rescued me with The Truth of His Word.
Jesus took the ashes of my life, my mess, my dreams, and made them into a beautiful story bringing Him the Glory.
He ordered every step of this search and rescue mission using circumstances I thought would destroy me to build my faith.
At every twisted turn in this unexpected road, He directed my path.
“Many are the plans in a person’s heart but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails.”
My life was no mistake.
Your life is no mistake.
God has a plan and a purpose for you.
Jeremiah 1:5 “Before I formed you in the womb, I knew you, before you were born you were set apart.”
No mistakes, thank You Jesus!
He counted every hair on my full head of black hair when he changed the course of my life and sent me to a new place.
Matt 10:30 “And even the very hairs of your head are all numbered.”
I wasn’t accidentally formed, nor accidentally adopted.
It was God’s Perfect Will for my life.
He had a plan for me, and He has a plan for you, too.